We had some insight from an outsider yesterday. He said that on a scale of 0 to 10, everything in Mr. P's life is either a 0 or an 11.
This morning, at breakfast, Shmoogie finishes her oatmeal and says, "Look, I ate almost all of it!"
Mr. P, who has arrived at the table quite a bit after Shmoogie, says competitively, "There isn't much left in mine!"
"There's more than a little bit," remarks Shmoogie, after inspecting his bowl.
Mr. P wants to punch her.
After extracting Shmoogie from the situation, I look across the table at Mr. P and ask him, "Do you know what 'on a scale of 1 to 10' means? Like, it was a problem for you what Shmoogie just said, right? If 1 is 'not a problem at all' and 10 is 'the biggest problem I've ever had in my life', how much of a problem was what she said for you?"
He doesn't hesitate at all, and says calmly, "A 10."
"That's interesting," I say, "Are there things that happen in your life that are something other than 10's? Like, maybe, a 3? Or is everything just 10's?"
I saw a quote yesterday, attributed to George Bernard Shaw:
The reasonable man adapts himself to the world; the unreasonable one persists in trying to adapt the world to himself. Therefore, all progress depends on the unreasonable man.
I might cross stitch it on a pillow for Mr. P when he leaves home.
Almost forgot, I added a couple notes to yesterday's post in answer to questions. :)